Being Gay and Traveling to Jamaica

Yes, I’m going there.  I admit I only thought about writing about gay people traveling to Jamaica once in the past and that blog post would have had more negative connotations to it than anything.  It would have been more of a warning post than anything.  UNTIL recently when I received an email from one of my readers who happens to be gay and was looking for a great tour guide in Jamaica.  He was going on a cruise for his partner’s 40th birthday and they would be stopping in Ocho Rios for a day.

The tour guide I recommended to them ended up not getting back to them until last minute so James had taken it upon himself to find his own tour guide in the meantime.  I was so entertained by my email correspondence with James before his trip that I asked him to definitely follow up with me afterwards and let me know how they enjoyed themselves.  His sense of humor is killer and his personality is real – my kind of people!

For anyone reading who doesn’t know, homosexuality in Jamaica is very taboo –  and sometimes even dangerous if you’re Jamaican.  I can’t say for sure if it’s as dangerous for tourists but I can say for sure that gay Jamaicans often must live on the down-low for fear of physical violence towards them by other Jamaicans…..and sometimes even death at the hands of homophobes.  It’s a very real situation on the island, although in the very recent past it seems Jamaican gays are coming out more now and even doing pride marches in Kingston.  But it’s still no where near an “open lifestyle” situation by any means.

Here are a few interview questions I had for James upon his return.  I love his answers.

Q:  You obviously did your homework before contacting me about your vacation in Jamaica, since you were aware of how gays are perceived there.  What made you decide to be open about it?  You could have omitted that and no one would have known the difference.

A:  I fear it’s worse than how gays are perceived in Jamaica.  It’s how they’re marginalized and persecuted and hunted and literally murdered.  At least that’s what the internet shows me.  I’m not sure I understand your question, “What made you decide to be open about it?”  Do you mean why did I feel comfortable identifying as gay when calling potential tour guides?  If that’s what you’re asking, it’s because I refuse to shame myself by pretending.  I feel that when you hide behind things, you cultivate the shame and diminish yourself.  Plus, it was a cruise for hubby’s 40th, and I wouldn’t want us to get into a van and have some dude weirded out by us.


Q:  When you finally got in contact with the tour guide you found, were you up front about being gay?

A:  Absolutely.  I contacted Patrice because I found out *somewhere* on the internet that she was gay-friendly.  I don’t know how I found the one tour guide in Jamaica who loves the gays.


Q:  In your short time on the island did you notice or feel any negative treatment from locals?

A:  We did not experience any negativity on account of us being gay.  But I think that’s because of two things: 1. We mostly present as straight and, 2. Patrice is a very well-connected local who’s brought many, many tourists to these businesses.  Other gay couples presenting as more effeminate I think would run into trouble.  A couple of years ago, we traveled to Maui.  We pulled off the road to grab some lunch at a shrimp truck and I got to talking to women whom I knew were lesbians.  One of them told me the harrowing story of how she had traveled to Jamaica before.  She said that their first day on the island, they went to the post office.  Some guy with one arm approached and shouted and harassed and threatened them and no one in the room blinked an eye or said a thing.  They stayed in their hotel room the rest of the week.  How sad.


Q:  You obviously had a fabulous time with your tour guide judging by the email you sent me when you returned home.  Would you go back to Jamaica and do it all over again for a longer period of time?  Or would you save it for a location where you don’t have to worry about what people think?

A:  Of course yes, I’d return.  But I’m kind of fearless.  I’d give my left nut to spend a long week at Time ‘N’ Place, relaxing.  Unfortunately, Eric’s not so into rustic.  The bastard.  Let me be honest: I think our day in Jamaica was atypical.  I did my due diligence, found a rare friendly woman.  Check the message boards.  This is not a usual experience for gay people.

I would like to thank James and Eric first of all for reading my blog and contacting me in the first place.  And second of all for being so open, honest and candid.  The world needs more people like you.  And congrats on your recent nuptials!

I also contacted Patrice, the tour guide they used and asked her if I could include her business information in this blog post and she said ABSOLUTELY!  This is what she had to say at my request to mention her service:


My Team and I personally offer a service without discrimination of any sort, form or fashion.  Discrimination based on race, sex, sexuality, orientation or class is not a part of the ethos of the service that we offer, there is no hostility to any client and we seek to showcase the best of Jamaican Culture to them.

Thanks so much for the review and confidence placed in the service that I offer. I have no reservation to be mention in your article since the service which i offer is one free from discrimination of any nature.”

So if you’re looking for a gay-friendly tour guide in Jamaica or know someone who is, you can EMAIL Patrice.


  • Janet Davis says:

    Interesting that this couple just had one day in Jamaica which is not really long enough to form an opinion on how many people would have reacted about their sexuality.
    Gay men in Jamaica ARE taboo but not so lesbians who seem to be more accepted; I went to a nine night for a young friend of mine and whose sister is a lesbian…..there were straight men and women also at the party and everyone had a great time with no animosity whatsoever.
    But on the other side of the coin, I have a gay male friend in Jamaica who is a dancer and lives in fear of his life constantly in case his sexual preferences are revealed and even pretends to have girlfriends to avoid suspicion and just a few close friends know his secret.
    Even here in the UK, Jamaican men are anti-homosexuals and as in Jamaica are not afraid to voice their opinions regarding them.
    The news channels in Jamaica broadcast everything concerning attacks, murders etc against gay men and I even remember once when Bruce Golding was the Prime Minister appearing on a British Talk program being asked “Would you allow a gay man to be a member of parliament” to which he answered openly “NO”.
    Only a miracle will make Jamaica change its mind on this subject and I don’t think it will be in my lifetime!

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  • anonymous says:

    That James guys sounds pretty handsome.

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  • Theresa says:

    Great post, Kristi. I have been thinking about doing a post on the very same topic. I am totally used to the typical Jamaican’s attitude toward gays. I’ve gotten into many “discussions” about it with family and friends there who just refuse to even TRY to understand it, even though they know I have gay relatives and friends here in Los Angeles. Maybe they will come around one day, but the music lyrics that incite them to violence sure don’t help. Although I also am pretty fearless, I don’t know if I would feel comfortable in most places in Jamaica if I were gay. On a vacation, people should not have to be afraid of being attacked. But it sounds like Patrice is a wonderful representative of the Jamaica I dearly love.

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  • Kristi says:

    Theresa – Thanks! I’ve thought about posting for a while but I guess it made it a cooler post to get some real input from tourists. And I’m SO happy they found this woman, and that she is also okay with putting herself out there.

    Janet – Yes they spent one day as part of a cruise. I’m sure they would have stayed longer if able to. Jamaicans should be some of the last people to have opinions on sexuality issues lol…..look at their culture, their music. It’s largely based on questionable sexual content. Who is anyone to judge?

    Regardless of anything, they are awesome and so much fun to correspond with.

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  • Janet says:

    Kristi I agree that with their track record on sexuality Jamaicans should be more open minded but are sadly not so. I have many gay friends and not afraid to talk about them and make a point of defending gay people whenever my Jamaican friends hit out against them. I don’t care what anyone thinks of my views on homosexuality and it saddens me to have to listen to their negative ranting. So a BIG WELL DONE to Patrice and her team for the wonderful open mindedness she has and I hope her business goes from strength to strength. Jamaica needs more people like her.

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  • Kristi says:

    Totally agree with you Janet. I hope other tourists find this post while searching for a gay-friendly tour guide and give her more business!

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  • Wally says:

    I just won an all-expenses paid trip for two to Jamaica. My partner and I were both initially really excited about going, but as I am researching the internet, I am becoming incredibly more nervous at the prospect of going. We will be headed to Negril. We are both straight acting and like to keep our heads on our shoulders. Should I be nervous?

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  • Kristi says:

    Hi Wally, thanks for your comment and congrats on winning your trip! I think you will be fine. Just go on your vacation and enjoy. It’s unfortunate that you have to act straight but if you have concerns or are nervous then that’s probably the best thing you can do. I haven’t spent much time in Negril, it’s not my favorite place so I can’t comment much, but it IS one of the most touristy towns on the island. You won’t be the first nor only gay couple to visit. Jamaica has so much to offer in the way of fun and things to do so I hope you just go and enjoy yourselves!

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  • I operate a tour company in Jamaica. ROYALTY JAMAICAN TOURS AND EXCURSIONS. In business there is no discrimation and the few people who work along with me know this. I’d rather loose them than to loose a dollar..

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  • Kristi says:

    This is SO nice to hear Dewight! I applaud open minded tour providers in Jamaica. Bravo to you!

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  • Eduardo Prado says:


    I’m a 45-year-old Chilean gay lonely traveller.
    I’ll arrive in Kingston on Monday 11th December at 9h45am and I’ll depart from Kingston on Sunday 17th December at 9h20pm.

    I’ve already been in Jamaica three years ago only in a boring resort in Negril just eating and drinking sadly with fat-bottomed drunk American tourists, going and coming from the hotel pool to the hotel beach every day. It was not definitely my cup of tea. I almost committed suicide!!!

    I said to me “It must be another way to really know this country, its people, the culture, the historic places, normal persons who live normal life and not only see the typical tourist-focused hustlers of the resort surroundings…and hopefully I could find a local to have fun together”

    I’d like to have a cultural week, starting with Bob Marley’s Museum and other interesting stuff in the capital city and the surrounding area, maybe visit other places like Blue Mountains, Ocho Ríos, etc.

    I haven’t booked any hotel yet. I’m not a sophisticated guy, so I appreciate just a clean and well located single room with toilet and maybe a decent view. I just want some privacy and ease to move around.

    Hope to hear tips from yours.

    Best regards,

    Eduardo Prado
    Santiago, Chile

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